Handling Academic Failure 4 Chapter 3: Blame No One

When they perform well in an examination, they acclaim the glory to themselves by saying "I pa.s.sed the examination". However if they fail, they attribute the failure to the examiner, "The lecturer failed me".

Do not fall for it. Do not blame anyone else for your failure. The problem is with you and until you discover it you do not move forward. The lecturer did not fail you. You failed yourself, irrespective of what your excuse is for failing. To justify blaming your lecturers for your academic failure, you can as well credit them for your success when you have pa.s.s marks in your exams.

Every student who has ever failed has excuses for his failures. These excuses are the boundary between them and their success. Some of the excuses may look tenable; like -

1) My lecturer hates me.

2) My background affected me

3) I do not have enough study materials

4) I had other things doing that are taking my time

5) My parents are not fully supportive.

Whatever excuse you have, you cannot be excused. You have failed, and you need to look for what to do to pa.s.s. That is all that matters now!

You can not blame it on your lecturer; if you were the best student in your cla.s.s you would have still pa.s.sed even if he hated you much more. No one can make a failure of you unless you cooperate with him.

You can not blame your failures on your background. There are people with worse backgrounds but with better results. Do not console yourself that you do not know any of such around. There are many of them in your school; you only need to search well to find enough.

You can not blame it on lack of relevant study materials. If you do not have enough funds to buy textbooks, you could have gotten copies from your friends or from the school library. You hardly will find a student who has all of the needed study materials, no matter how rich he is. Like it is in life so also it is in school. In life, everybody needs to depend on someone to get something he needs to get somewhere in life. In school, every student needs to depend on some other students to get some of the materials he needs to get a good grade in school.

And if your excuse is that you had other things doing that took your time, you could have planned your time more properly. If you had given a larger chunk of your time to academic activities (which is the main reason you are on this campus), you would not have gotten yourself into this mess. You are indeed inexcusable. Every other factor not withstanding, you are responsible for your failures. The earlier you admit it, the better for you.

Men are not regarded as failures until they admit it themselves, and the first sign to show they have admitted it is to start blaming someone else for their actions. The moment you begin to find someone to blame for your failure, you are already beginning to be one. Sit up, take the blame, learn the lesson, and make progress.

DO NOT COVER IT UP

It really will not make too much sense wasting your precious energy trying to cover up the failure. It will not work. Students have a way of knowing what you do not want them to know, especially

when it comes to your examination results. If they now discover that you are intentionally hiding it from them, they may make up their minds to deliberately taunt you with it, and this mockery may be more than you bargained for.

This does not mean you should start broadcasting to the whole school or your neighborhood that you have failed again; there is not much wisdom in this. You just be yourself and let things happen whichever way life has planned it. Do not try to hide the fact or overprotect it. Let nature takes its natural course.

The truth is that failing once does not make you a failure. Most successful men have failed before, and they are not termed failure for failing once. You sure have heard of Thomas Edison's one thousand failed experiments before getting the right filament. He is still a respected genius today.

The fact that you have failed today does not mean you will fail tomorrow. So if anyone says you are a

failure, it is just his personal opinion. Anyone can see you as a failure, but as long as G.o.d does not, you are still right on course.

It is left to you to either believe or reject what the Bible says about you. It is not pride to call yourself what G.o.d calls you. G.o.d calls you a winner, not a failure. Admit it, despite what anyone thinks of you!

DO NOT GIVE UP

You do not have to give up because you have failed once. Failure is not the end of any journey; it is just a bus stop on the road of success. Giving up because you have failed therefore is like alighting from a bus before it gets to your destination.

Do not see failure as a full stop, see it as a comma. Success is a process and failure is just a part of it. It does not mean defeat; it only represents a delay, after which the journey still continues.

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The reason you have failed is simply because you have made a mistake and everybody makes mistakes; hence justifying the saying "n.o.body is above mistake". Rather than sit and cry about the failure, get the best from it and move forward. No matter how bad you have failed, you can still give it another trial. You can make a new beginning. If you have failed an examination once, go back and rewrite it.

All the same, it is possible you have been writing the same exams over and over again; this does not make you a failure, keep trying. One does not become a failure when he fails; he becomes a failure when he quits. Until you stop trying, you can not be addressed as a failure, irrespective of what people call you.

Let every failure inspire you to try again. If you fail your WAEC, try again. If you fail NECO, try again. If you fail JAMB, try again. If you fail a promotional exam, try again. If you fail a semester exam, try again. If you fail your final year exams, try again. If you fail a professional exam, try again.

Whatever exam it is you have failed, try again.

Do not drop out of school because of failure: Life continues. Remember the poem you were taught in your kindergarten days, 'if at first you do not succeed, try, try, try again'. You owe yourself the responsibility to try again. You can make it if you try again. You have what it takes.