Seriously I'm Kidding Part 1

Seriously... I'm Kidding.

by Ellen Degeneres.

Acknowledgments

I had a hard time deciding how to list and acknowledge all the important people in my life. I was going to list people in alphabetical order, but I didn't think that would be fair to Catherine Zeta-Jones. Then I thought maybe I should list everyone from shortest to tallest or thinnest to heaviest, but that didn't seem right either. So I decided to list everyone from smartest to dumbest. No, that's not true. This list is in no particular order. Just because someone is first doesn't mean they're the most important. It doesn't mean they're not the most important either. I am grateful for them all.

So in no particular order, 1'd like to thank: My mother, my father, my brother, Craig Peralta, Eddy Yablans, Esther Newberg, Deb Futter, Eric Gold, Caryn Weingarten, Harley Neuman, Kevin Yorn, Hilary Estey McLoughlin, David McGuire, Ed Glavin, Mary Connelly, Andy La.s.sner, Lauren Pomerantz, Kevin Leman, Jason Gelles, and all my writers on my talk show.

Even though I did mention earlier that this list is in no particular order, there is one person who is the most important person in my life-my wife, Portia.

Thank you.

A Note from the Author

Dearest Reader, h.e.l.lo. How are you? That's great to hear. Listen, I want to thank you for buying this book. We're about to begin a beautiful journey together-one that is unique and special. I know a lot of you might watch my talk show, but communicating through a book is different than communicating through television. Like, on my talk show I tell you what's going on in my life and what I'm thinking about each day. But in this book, I'm going to tell you what's going on in my life and what I'm thinking about-you know what, I don't want to waste your time with silly comparisons.

But I bet a lot of you are probably thinking, Ellen (or "E" depending on how well we know one another), why are you writing another book after already proving yourself by penning two wildly, wildly successful tomes? Well the truth is, since I wrote my last book a lot has happened in my life. I got married. I got my own talk show. I started a record label. I became a CoverGirl. I was Dory. I won an Academy Award.* I won the Boston Marathon. I won the Boston Marathon.** I started a compost heap. I started a compost heap.*** And I was knighted by the Queen of England. And I was knighted by the Queen of England.****

I've experienced a whole lot the last few years and I have a lot to share. So I hope that you'll take a moment to sit back, relax, and enjoy the words I've put together for you in this book. I think you'll find I've left no stone unturned, no door unopened, no window unbroken, no rug unvacuumed, no ivories untickled. What I'm saying is, let us begin, shall we?

Writing This Book

Over the last year or so since I decided to write this book, people have been asking me how I have the time and why I chose to write it. The truth is, last June I was driving through a tunnel while I was on the phone with my agent and my cell service was spotty. I said, "I just got a great IKEA table for my breakfast nook." My agent thought I said, "I've got a great idea for my newest book."

By the time we figured out our hilarious misunderstanding I had signed a whole bunch of papers (who has time to read all those words?!) and I was under contract to write a book. Similarly, a few years ago, I told my agent, "I think I got some fudge on my lapel," and he thought I said, "I want to be a judge on American Idol American Idol." Since then I got a new phone. And I found out my agent's name is Marvin, not Blarvin.

But the real truth is, I'm glad I decided to write this book. I love writing and I do feel like I've learned a lot about life and love and other "L" words since I wrote my last book, and there are things I want to share with the world.

As it turns out, writing a book is hard. It's not as hard as mining coal or teaching teenagers to drive, I know that. But it is hard. I didn't think it would be so hard because I go on television every day and talk for an hour and I usually have plenty to say. Plus, I've already written other books-two as myself and dozens more under my pen name, Danielle Steel.

When I first sat down to write, I stared at the blank page and tried to think of some strategies for getting started. When I want a guest on my show to start talking and telling a good story, I ask them a question. So I asked myself a question that I would ask a guest: "When did you first fall in love with Tim McGraw?"

That didn't get me anywhere and I quickly realized I shouldn't ask myself questions that are so specific to Faith Hill.

So I asked myself a different question.

"What made you take on the role of Precious Precious?"

That didn't work, either.

So then I began to think about you, the readers. Who are you? What are you doing? What are you wearing? (Not in a weird way.) I thought it would help to put myself in your shoes for a moment. It always helps to think about other people instead of just ourselves. Like, if you want to know what I'm doing right now, I'm driving to work with my top down. The roof of my convertible is up. I am wearing a beret-it helps me think and it makes me feel French. That is also why I'm pretending to smoke a straw, and that is probably why a bus full of tourists is staring at me.

So what would you like to hear about as my reader? I wondered. Perhaps you might like to hear about some of the highlights that have occurred throughout my life and career, but it's hard to know what highlights you would find exciting versus the highlights I think are exciting. For example, a few years ago I called my credit card company and got a late fee reversed that quite honestly I didn't think they'd reverse. That was a really big moment for me because you know how cranky some customer service representatives can be when they're having a bad day. But I don't know if that qualifies as the type of highlight you're looking to hear about.

I let my mind wander through some of the biggest moments in my life and then I realized what I needed to do. Since I don't know specific things about each and every one of you, except that a lot of you are probably brunettes, I decided to include a little something for everyone in this book. You're going to find some short stories for adults, coloring pages for kids, and many things for all ages in between. You'll also find self-help tips, some medical advice (from someone who has no medical background nor the authority to dole out medical advice), nutrition facts, and you might even learn how to be happier in your everyday lives. I hope you do.

ADDENDUM

There are a few things I wanted to include in this book but decided instead to save for my memoir. The following is a list of things you will not read about in this book:

Details of my long-term relationship with Javier Bardem.

My years spent in juvie.

My early days as a pioneer of disco.

My involvement with the Milli Vanilli lip-synching scandal of 1990.

My recently discovered half-sister.

The leaked s.e.x tape.

CoverGirl

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.Beauty is only skin deep.Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart.

Throughout my entire life, I have believed in these sentiments. I've believed that true beauty is not related to what color your hair is or what color your eyes are. True beauty is about who you are as a human being, your principles, your moral compa.s.s. And then in 2008 I was finally able to throw all that hogwash out the window because I was named the new face of CoverGirl cosmetics! Take a bite out of that, world! Check out these cheekbones! I'm a beauty queen! (This is where flashbulbs go off and I turn my head from side to side, posing like a supermodel. It was apparently "too expensive" and "not possible" to put mini lightbulbs in every book, so you're just gonna have to imagine it. I'm sorry.) The truth is, I still believe that above all things physical, it is more important to be beautiful on the inside-to have a big heart and an open mind and a spectacular spleen. (Actually, most people's insides are disgusting. Even pretty people have very unattractive insides. Have you ever seen those surgery shows on Discovery? Not pretty.) To me, beauty is about being comfortable in your own skin. It's about knowing and accepting who you are. I'm happy being who I am. I'm confident, I live honestly and truthfully, and I think that's why I was chosen as the first fifty-year-old, openly gay CoverGirl. It's just a bonus that I have devastatingly blue eyes.

But we really are a society that focuses so much on physical appearance. I realized this recently when I accidentally looked into one of those mirrors that magnify your face to five hundred times its actual size. They sell them at Bed Bath & Beyond in the "Things That Make You Feel Bad About Yourself" aisle. They're right next to the bathroom scales, usually on a shelf you're too short to reach. I'm sure you've all looked into one of them at some point. On one side, it's a totally normal mirror. And then if you turn it over to the other side, your face looks like the surface of the moon.

Portia and I have one in our shower. I never look in it because it's usually blocked by the person who washes me. But for some reason I looked in it one day and, oh Lordy, that is a horrible invention! Who invented that thing and why haven't they been jailed? Those things need to come with a warning. Car mirrors have warnings that say, "Objects are closer than they appear." Magnification mirrors should have warnings that say, "Objects are not as attractive as they appear."

They show you things you didn't know were there, that no one can possibly see. I looked at my hairline and I found a family of doves living in it. It was shocking. The only people who need to see things that close up are surgeons who are performing delicate operations and jewelers. That's it. No one is gonna see you the way you see yourself in those mirrors unless you're married to a surgeon or a jeweler and they come home from work still wearing that apparatus. "Honey, I'm home. Oh my goodness, your pores are huge!"

I don't know why we ever need to look into those. They're not accurate. They point out every single one of our flaws. We don't need that. That's why we have mothers. The fact of the matter is that everyone has flaws. No one is perfect, except for Penelope Cruz. Our flaws are what make us human. If we can accept them as part of who we are, they really don't even have to be an issue.

I feel the same way about age. I've never been someone to lie about my age. I don't understand it. Actually, I don't know how people can lie about their age anymore now that the Internet exists. Not only can people easily find out what year I was born, they can find out what time, what hospital, how long my mother was in labor. I wouldn't be surprised if there was footage on YouTube of the doctor spanking me. The only reason there isn't is because YouTube didn't exist when I was born.

Our age is something we have absolutely no control over; it's just a fact of who we are. I enjoy growing older and wiser and learning from my mistakes every single day. I'm happy, for example, that I no longer eat paste, like I did when I was twenty-four. And I'm happy that in a few years I'll be able to get half-price tickets to movies and museums. Considering how often I go to the movies and museums, I could save upward of thirty dollars a year.

When we were kids, all we wanted was to be older. When we were seven and a half and someone said we were only seven, we were furious. We probably even cried about it. Can you imagine doing that now as an adult? "This is Marsha. She's forty-two." "Forty-two and a half! You always forget the half! I'm practically forty-two and three-quarters!" I don't know at what age people stop wanting to be older. People seem to enjoy their twenties and thirties. It must be around forty, when you're "over the hill." I don't even know what that means and why it's a bad thing. When I go hiking and I get over the hill, that means I'm past the hard part and there's a snack in my future. That's a good thing as far as I'm concerned.

People seem to be shy about their age through their fifties and sixties, but then once they hit seventy or eighty, they start telling people again because it's such a huge victory to have made it that far. No one gets to one hundred and tells people they're only ninety-five. So I don't know why anyone has to lie about those middle years. We should celebrate every year that we made it through and every year that we're happier and healthier. Because honestly, that's the best-case scenario. And the bottom line is we are who we are-we look a certain way, we talk a certain way, we walk a certain way. I strut because I'm a supermodel, and sometimes I gallop for fun. When we learn to accept that, other people learn to accept us. So be who you really are. Embrace who you are. Literally. Hug yourself. Accept who you are. Unless you're a serial killer.

I know it seems easy and breezy for me to say, but trust me-it's okay to be you. If you had called me fifteen years ago and told me I was going to end up being a CoverGirl, I would have said, "No way" and "How'd you get this number?" But look at me now. I'm totally myself and I'm an internationally known, widely sought-after supermodel. I even went to Paris one time.

How to Be a Supermodel

Since I am a CoverGirl, I thought if any of you are interested in learning a little bit about modeling I could offer you some tips. I've sashayed down plenty of catwalks in my day-well, one. But I know what it takes to make an impression. So here are some suggestions, as long as you are willing to be fierce.

One: The Look

Always look like you're angry at the universe for making you too pretty.

Two: The Walk

Trot. Aggressively, like you're a horse that's trying to avoid puddles.

Three: The Squint

Squint like someone is bouncing sunlight off their watch and directly into your eyes.

Four: The Pout

Get those lips out there. Purse your lips like you're trying to sip out of a straw that someone keeps moving away from you.

Five: The Pose

Be mysterious. Always pose with one hand in your pocket as if to say, "I'm so mysterious, this hand in my pocket could be a hook hand. You don't know."

Six: The Breeze