Lit_ A Memoir Part 7

I haven't gotten an ATM card yet, I say.

Where's your credit card?

I lost it, I lie, for I couldn't tell him the one I'd used to pay for a hotel once had long since been snipped in half at some cash register. This debt wasn't just recklessly come by, being due to last-minute plane tickets when Daddy had one stroke after another.

You're not out of money, are you?

I'm not. Though I'm within a month of it.

Warren opens his wallet and draws out the twenty, handing it over like a radioactive item with tongs. The mild unease I expected is (did I imagine this?) the scrutiny a thief draws. Since our romance started, I've gone months devoid of shame, maybe even deceiving myself that I've been cleansed of it, till its icy bucket dumps over me from scalp to foot soles.

Outside, we walk a cobbled sidewalk toward his car, the snow spatting on the hood of my parka. Along the curving streets of Cambridge, the silence carries us past the tightly clipped hedges. The colonial houses in white and canary yellow and smoky blue with lacquered black shutters are like magazine houses-clean places I want to disappear into the safe bricks of. When I can't bear the weight of Warren's silence anymore, I burst out with, What's the big deal? I'll pay you tomorrow.

He shushes me and looks around.

I tug his sleeve so he faces me, but he's looking over my head for spectators. I say, Who'll hear us? It's an empty street.

He takes his arm from me and walks on. At the car door, he says, My cousin owns that restaurant.

Which I'd forgotten.

Nothing deflates a righteous drunk like the pinp.r.i.c.k of reality. The air rushes out of me as I climb in the car. He buckles in, and I remind him the cousin doesn't even know I worked there. The job came through a college pal on the waitstaff. Warren cranks up.

Sitting alongside him, I sense that his finger is fixed to some invisible eject b.u.t.ton about to vault me from his side. If I close my eyes, I can almost feel myself spinning away, growing smaller and smaller. I shrink like a spider on a coal.

The snow spits on the windows and slides off. Warren's gloveless fingers, so long and finely shaped, grip the wheel.

What I did, I don't exactly know. Maybe I reached for his hand. Maybe I gave him s.h.i.t for being conventional. My methods for clinging to him were varied and pitiful. Eventually, I needed him badly enough that I said whatever I had to, push him away. Counterphobic, a shrink once called it, meaning I run fast toward any event I suspect might be excruciating.

I'm not preppie enough for you, I say.

His silence holds as we drive. I amplify my rhetoric and volume. Maybe I should be wearing a kilt with a f.u.c.king gold safety pin, I say.

He parks the car outside our apartment. As he's locking up, he says-color blazing high on his flared cheekbones-And you quit your job. With your school loans and your father sick. Are you crazy?

This is a buzzword with me, since deep down I know I'm crazy, my chief fear being that everybody'll find out.

So I do the only thing I can think of: I run. I run onto the sidewalk and drop to my knees, sobbing like a banshee. A bratty move, but Warren takes the bait and comes to help me up. Then a few things happen in an order I can't recall. He asks me please to go inside. I start to vomit in the snow-three cognacs in those days being a heavy dose. A policeman shows up to check out the seedy scene, and from Warren's arms, I jabber, I'm fine, Officer, just too much to drink. My boyfriend's taking me home.

Back in the apartment, I lie in bed next to him, circled by the night's chaos as if by gnats. Our fight's ant.i.thetical to Warren's penchant for order and routine-his alphabetical file folders and meticulously typed drafts, the paper clip always in the same spot. (How like my daddy that was.) If he hates a book on page one, he'll nonetheless finish it, for he's made the commitment. And I hope he'll commit to me that way and be as loath to leave me undone.

I lie there pondering his fiscal p.r.i.c.kliness, wholly mysterious to me. Back home, n.o.body had any money, so we swapped the same few bucks back and forth with open hands. (Those without money don't grasp right off having to discipline yourself against sycophants.) Listening to his even breath, I sense the oppressive weight of my old self inside me pressing to run wild again. My old mother I'm trying to keep in. Snow pecks at the window screens.

And then the sound of our upstairs neighbor playing the ukelele-plunka plunka plunka. There is no instrument goofier nor more insidious. The guy can play for hours, and while I can sack out during a train wreck, Warren heaves over and swears. He reaches his arm out and flips on the white noise machine that blocks all sound. It makes a coc.o.o.n of rushing noise meant to mimic an air conditioner or waterfall. To me, it sounds like the sucking of a dentist's drain. Warren needs absolute silence, absolute dark to sleep, and with the entire racket in my head, I know myself to be an inadvertent force for pandemonium.

For a long time, I lie studying in the blue dark Warren's angled jaw and ski-slope cheekbones. It's shallow, I confess, but the architecture of his face never fails to transfix me. It's the kind of face people on the street invariably asked for directions-the face of the army officer, the team captain, the star professor.

Without Warren's hands cupping my own face, I'm almost faceless. I need his body in bed and his books on my shelves anchoring me to the planet. I need him ahead of me to complete a two-mile run, else I give up and light a smoke. I need his editing skills. When he draws his pen through clunky lines, I cut them. I need his unbudgeable integrity. I mean, when a big-deal magazine requested changing some of his poems, he pulled them rather than compromise. I'd have typed mine backward in Urdu to see them into print.

Underneath the worries with Warren and money and how to live runs a humming current of hurt-Daddy lying wordless, eyes cloudy. They said he wouldn't live off the respirator, but it's over a year now. He's being calcified, his empty shape pressed into the sheets like a fern in lava. Ask him if he wants more juice, and he might shout out, Bacon! Bacon! Part of me believes I should catch the next bus down there to start spoon-feeding him-that's my fantasy-a daughterly sacrifice I lack the maturity to pull off, for my patience with bedpans and bent straws rarely lasts an hour. Carrying the warm jar of p.i.s.s his catheter linked him to, even the short distance to the caged hospital bed set up in my girlhood room, felt like bearing death itself. Part of me believes I should catch the next bus down there to start spoon-feeding him-that's my fantasy-a daughterly sacrifice I lack the maturity to pull off, for my patience with bedpans and bent straws rarely lasts an hour. Carrying the warm jar of p.i.s.s his catheter linked him to, even the short distance to the caged hospital bed set up in my girlhood room, felt like bearing death itself.

Lying alongside Warren that night, I again resolve to generate income, really get serious about it, to chip in on Daddy's nursing and still meet school loans, without ever pestering Warren again, lest that gap between our backgrounds yawn open. Money can finalize my change, I tell myself. Also, I have to never, never, never drink hard stuff. Long as I stick to beer or wine, I'll be fine.

In the morning, when Warren stirs, I've already gone to the bank. The mug of coffee I bring him has a twenty-dollar bill rubber-banded to the handle.

If we talked about the night before, I don't recall it, which isn't fair to either of us, for it doesn't show our reasoned selves paring away at our scared ones. But it's a neurological fact that the scared self holds on while the reasoned one lets go. The adrenaline that let our ancestors escape the sabertooth tiger sears into the meat of our brains the extraordinary, the loud. The shrieking fight or the out-of-character insult endures forever, while the daily sweetness dissolves like sugar in water.

Not long after, though, some of his doubts about me leak out again, and again the topic's a disparity in how we want to live. We've jogged five miles around Fresh Pond and are stretching out when he says, You know what my sister noticed about you first?

I cling to the fence and am bending my knee to loosen the quad, wheezing out, My rapier wit?

Warren's quick smile skids past my joke. He says, That you had really nice luggage. She warned me that a girl with such fancy luggage might expect to live higher on the hog than a poet would.

The irony? It had been Lecia's Hartmann luggage from the Rice Baron before they'd divorced-borrowed so as not to be embarra.s.sed bringing an army duffel bag to his parents' house.

A week or so later, we unwrap our brown-papered Christmas gifts decorated with crayons and string-homemade gifts all. I'd st.i.tched up a giant pillow to serve as a faux headboard, stars on a background of deep blue. He'll spend Christmas with his family, because otherwise he'd never see his far-flung siblings. To me their cool exchanges mirror chatter at a bus stop. My pending visit to Daddy is an event on a par with cyanide.

Warren stretches his legs in front of the red leather club chair appropriated from his parents' attic. He picks at a moist banana m.u.f.fin I'd made from scratch-black bananas being cheapest. I unwrap the small packet of audio tapes he made me-recordings of some lost lectures on the epic by an unknown prof.

Some girls pine for jewelry, but for me the tapes are like an invitation into Warren's monastery, since his devotion to poetry has a monkish quality. I'd spent way more years worrying about how to look like a poet-buying black clothes, smearing on scarlet lipstick, languidly draping myself over thrift-store furniture-than I had learning how to a.s.semble words in some discernible order.

I slide the ca.s.sette into the tape deck and press play. The old recording is scratchy enough to conjure a time before we were born. The professor's first sentence brings me up short, for it sketches a football field-sized hole in my reading. He notes there's as much distance between Homer and Virgil as between Chaucer and us.

I press stop, saying, Isn't that like a thousand years?

Around that, Warren says. He peels the paper from the m.u.f.fin.

Since grad school, I'd felt as stuffed full of knowledge as a Christmas goose. Suddenly, a thousand unknown years of poetic history yawns unstudied before me. How little I know panics me.

I say, I'd always figured those toga-wearing guys hung out around the same time.

His smile is soft. You always know what poets wore.

I say something like, Baudelaire tweezed his nose hairs and wore the floppy black satin bow. d.i.c.kinson wore white like a virgin bride. Warren Whitbread wore Brooks Brothers shirts, b.u.t.ton-down, oxford-cloth. Jeans and khakis. He was long of limb and lean in a blue bathrobe.

He says, And Mary Karr?

Black black black. Plus loads of mascara. Spike heels.

He reaches among the wrappings on the floor and holds up the eye-fryingly pink sweater his mother picked up for me in Bermuda, saying, You're not ready for this yet?

Grotesque as it looks, in some ways, I want nothing more than to look right occupying it.

8.

Temporary Help Come January, as part of clawing my way into the white-collar cla.s.ses I mock, I sit behind the receptionist's desk of a telecommunications firm that helped build and maintain the internet. In this age, faxes are big news. Operators still plug callers in and out of switchboards. Crawling with horn-rimmed MIT geniuses, this place is, and they're marketing (unsuccessfully if you can believe it) the very first e-mail program. They're almost growing too fast not to hire me, so soon I move up from receptionist ($12K) to a secretarial job I suck at ($13K). Since I need the overtime, I take up nighttime data entry for accounting.

It's staring into one of those green screens, doing corporate budgets, that I notice how high salaries rise in marketing. Also, they spend hundreds of thousands on trade shows each year, and my product-manager girlfriend informs me that n.o.body pays attention to the budgets. So in the company library, I read a bunch of trade magazines and essentially retype what they said needs to happen into a proposal for managing that budget. Poof, I'm a marketeer.

Riding the six-thirty bus to the company in my cheap suit with my briefcase on my lap, I can pa.s.s for a normal citizen-except for scribbling poetry in a black notebook. I never thought of myself as competent in commerce, particularly, and striding through the doors lends me a new bearing. I join a corporate women's track team, lured by the sweet prospect of fitting in as we lope around the pond at lunch hour. Me, belonging somewhere. Sliding the company credit card across a hotel desk, I radiate bourgeois integrity. For a girl bred to yank peanuts out of the ground, any desk job gives off an urban sheen. And this is the go-go eighties in a company where they slap up new cubicles every week.

Meanwhile, Warren's volunteer library job has morphed into a full-time a.s.sistant curator's position, so we've moved to a tree-lined suburb where the noise quotient disturbs his work and sleep less. Financially, I'm not exactly out of the woods, but with the first health insurance I've ever had, I track down a therapist. Night terrors still wake me screaming twice a week, and if I have a few drinks, an image of Daddy warping into fossil form can set me on a crying jag.

Every month we sc.r.a.pe together enough to eat out at a cheap fish house-mussels in garlic and white wine. Once, at the next table, a similarly steaming bowl is lowered in front of a Polish n.o.bel laureate in poetry whose public lectures we've been religiously going to, all goggle-eyed. We marvel at his high forehead, like that bust of Beethoven you always see.

Don't stare, Warren says.

But I can't stop looking at this laureate's gray and diabolical eyebrows, projecting above his light eyes like a ram's horns. He practically speeds up my heart.

Do tree surgeons gape at great examples of tree surgery? Do line cooks get misty eyed seeing a well run cafe pump out orders? For me seeing this guy gives an almost s.e.xual thrill-like a h.o.r.n.y teenager faced with a centerfold. Or more like a devout altar girl seeing a saint.

Please don't, Warren finally says in a voice barely audible. He places an empty purple sh.e.l.l in the bowl between us.

What? I say.

Don't introduce yourself, he says. Admit you're thinking about it.

It's true that my former grad school professor Bob translates the guy at Berkeley, so we connect at some small nexus.

Warren and I both pick at our mussels till I say, Why not? It's something I can tell our grandkids about. I touched the hand that wrote those words.

I don't want to be here for it, Warren says. He raises a finger for the check. Behind his napkin, he says, You don't have to meet every famous poet.

In his view, my appet.i.te for social activity is voracious. I remember seeing an invitation to his college reunion on the kitchen table that year. The choices were: I can attend.I hope I can attend.I cannot attend.

He circled the words to read I hope I cannot attend I hope I cannot attend before sending it back. before sending it back.

You're at Harvard every day, I say. You record Seamus Heaney lectures (Harvard's own n.o.bel-anointed poet). He was your teacher, even. You host poetry readings twice a month.

The Greek waiter drops off the check, and I rifle my briefcase as Warren goes over the math. He says, Seamus is plagued by toadies. I don't want to be one of them.

I s.n.a.t.c.h the check from his hand, saying, I'm the boring stiff in a suit who comes in late to the reading and n.o.body talks to at the reception. I live in a business gulag.

He says, n.o.body thinks of you as a wallflower, Mare.

I glance over at the Polish luminary, adding, I just want to shake his hand.

Warren looks as if he'd like to sink through the floor, so I say, Go ahead. I'll meet you at the car.

As he slips on his coat, I say, Not speaking to Seamus is not treating him like a normal person, you know.

He pulls on his stocking cap with a grimace.

Seconds later, I shake the great laureate's hand, and it shames me to say I'm so desperate to enter the world in which he's lord that I get a shock of electricity doing so.

We're driving home when Warren says, You'd sit in his lap if he'd let you.

He's eighty, I say. I just wanted to touch him and see if he was real.

Cambridge can make history come alive to you with its parade of big-deal writers. At MIT, we see blind Borges right before he dies. And if we bicker over our social differences, still a steady current of book talk flows back and forth.

Through Warren's library job, I visit the special collections, and together we bend over the silver reliquary a pope once wore that holds a lock of John Keats's hair. Next to my face, breathing frost on the gla.s.s, Warren's mouth whispers a sonnet. Together we read Keats's letters to his lost beloved about how the st.i.tches on a cap she made him went through him like a spear. I lace my fingers with his. The average non-poetry devotee may think the intensity around this stuff off-kilter at the least, but for us, it's like digging our hands together into a secret vat of pearls. In that realm only we are rich as any royalty.

9.

There Went the Bride This is h.e.l.l,but I planned it, I sawed it,I nailed it, and Iwill live in it until it kills me.I can nail my left palmto the left-hand crosspiece butI can't do everything myself.I need a hand to nail the right,a help, a love, a you, a wife.-Alan Dugan, "Love Song: I and Thou"

Weddings had ahold of Mother-not in a good way, not in the girlish way of ordering orange blossoms and trawling for china patterns. She's more like the old Vietnam vet who-seeing the ceiling fan whir-throws himself on the floor to scream Incoming! Incoming! Any ceremonial a.s.semblage of families tends to set Mother off. Any ceremonial a.s.semblage of families tends to set Mother off.

On the occasion of Lecia's-at a justice of the peace in El Paso-Mother got walleyed drunk and cussed out her rice-farming son-in-law, calling him an ignorant Republican hillbilly. She'd also torn up the only Polaroids of the event, at which point Lecia and I blackmailed her into temporarily giving up the sauce by threatening never to see her again.

Lecia's marriage to the Rice Baron didn't last-her divorce coincided with my engagement-but our uproar with Mother bought us several heavily medicated years in which she moped around the house, occasionally threatening suicide. What did I want for her then? Good cable and some downers-in other words, to keep her quiet so she didn't incinerate anything. In a poem of mine, I noted that she aimed the channel changer like a wrist rocket at the last reality she could alter.

The occasion for her falling off the wagon is the afternoon of my rehearsal dinner at the Ritz in Boston, where my father-in-law-to-be had kept a tab since law school. To make us appear even more fractious, Lecia is living like a squatter in two rooms behind her insurance office with her toddler son and the Salvadoran couple who left the Rice Baron's employ to help raise the boy.

Before the rehearsal dinner, I'm lying in a shampoo chair with my head in the black sink, neck arched upward in a perfect position to have my throat cut, and I catch a distant whiff of marijuana.

Mother, I think. With that single word, an unease comes shimmering into my solar plexus.

My stylist, Richard, who's been vigorously scrubbing my scalp, twists my soapy hair into a unicorn horn, saying, Maybe you should wear it like this down the aisle.

I interrupt him, rising up. Do you smell that? I say.

What? he says.

Pot, I say.

Lifting his nose in the air, he gives a stuffed-up snuffle, then says, Allergies.

It's dusk, and I've warned Richard and his beautician colleague Curtis in advance not to offer Mother and me their usual convivial gla.s.s of wine. Twice.

Reluctantly, I lie back down, but some engine of vigilance has been kick-started in my middle, and it's starting to rumble. I say, Curtis wouldn't give her marijuana.

Curtis can't afford afford marijuana, Richard says, adding, It's probably floating up from the alley. marijuana, Richard says, adding, It's probably floating up from the alley.

And with that, I tell him how-visiting me once at college-Mother got gunched out of her brains with my pals. In my twenties, she sat in on a poetry workshop with Etheridge, and afterward, I found her on his back step sharing a blunt with him and a bunch of young brothers. Which embarra.s.sed me at the time, since she flirted like a saloon floozy, but also since her lack of maternal posture always unconsciously felt like some failure of mine on the child front.